Week 24 – Are you valuing your gifts?

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Often in life we think that we must give something of financial value for it to truly have a value.

My daughter spent her birthday at the park with her friends.

Many kids her age expect a rented room, limo, catered meal, fancy cake, party planner, fancy decorations…

We used a picnic table at the local park. (We had to get there early to make sure we got one.)

I picked up those who needed a ride in my 2006 Jeep.

A few days earlier, we went shopping and bought all her favorites and a few healthy options.

We went to the Dollar Tree, Goodwill, and Value Village to buy everything needed for the table.

She wanted to make her famous brownies.

We stayed up till midnight making flower crowns for each person in their favorite color. (We both have the blisters from the hot glue.)

She invited her close friends.

They all seemed to have a great time.

The food was simple and went quickly.  She had rolls, meat, cheese, fruit, vegetables, chips, dip, cookies, candy, and brownies.  Grab and go foods.  I bought them 2 liter soda bottle, but they went for the water bottles instead.  This shocked me.

She had some small beach balls that they threw at each other, mini golf, bubbles, and Frisbees.

My hidden talent is making balloon animals (puppies mostly).  I wasn’t sure if they were too old, but I spent a few hours doing them.  Most of them went to the little kids that were visiting the park.  The giraffes were the big hit.

My point is this:  You have gifts inside you that do not cost money.  They are more valuable than anything that can be bought.  Share them with others.  You may be surprised at how much value you possess.


Week 23 – It takes less energy to succeed than fail.


Do you agree?  I would have said no in the past, but I have realized that this is a true statement.

My parents would say, “Do it right the first time.”  “Put your head down and just finish.”  “Don’t procrastinate.”

When we slow the process with self-doubt, we are putting up road blocks that can take us in the wrong direction or cause us to veer off the correct path.  Doubting our ability is a learned trait.  As children, we try and try never questioning if we are going to succeed or if we can do something.  As adults, we have been trained to question everything before we try.  Can we be successful?  Should we even try?  Do we have time to complete it?  Is it practical to do it?  Who will it affect?  Is it worth it?

We need to challenge ourselves.  Stop asking the questions and just do it!  Live your destiny!


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How many times in your life have you tried something and been totally successful the first time?

As children, we were able to eventually crawl, stand, and walk with many unsuccessful attempts.  We tried and tried until we were successful.  We did not take time to scold our self for not being successful the first or last time.

I find myself spending excess time researching trying to prepare myself.  I often get so overwhelmed that I become frozen with fear of the unknown.  I wonder if I truly can do it.  I fear making a mistake or doing it wrong.  I hate making mistakes.  I know this was from my childhood.  I have extremely high expectations for myself.  I am my own worst enemy.

When we look at history, we should realize that everyone who was successful also had failures.

Why do we focus on the failure?  Why do we look at something that doesn’t work as a failure?

What we should be doing is treating our life like a big experiment.

We live each day always looking for successful ways to do things.  We should treat each attempt whether or not it is successful as a step toward success.

Stop thinking in the mind frame of trial and error and move to trial and success.

When something does not work, then we need to think of that as eliminating one possibility.  We now have fewer concepts to test, and we are one step closer to complete success.



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As I have gone through the MKMMA Program, I have realized that my way of looking at my life was not helping me grow to achieve the life that I have wanted.

My life has been fear and anger driven.  I have been afraid of what will come if I take those steps that challenge me.  I try to live in my comfort zone.  Don’t rock the boat.  Why change if it isn’t broken?

I have come to realize that I am broken and did not know it.  I stop pushing myself when I feel the discomfort of the unknown.

I challenge you to look at things differently.  I must look at Fear and Anger in a positive light.

Fear is a good thing.  Fear gives us intense focus on one thing like we are looking into a magnifying glass.  With this focus, we can analyze the situation and resolve it.  Fear also gives us an energy boost.

Anger is necessary.  Anger is a surge of energy to move forward.  If you are angry, try to realize why and determine if there is a way to change the anger into energy to succeed.  Anger also lets you know that you care about what is happening.

These are just two factors that keep us from getting out of our comfort zone.

Move forward in your life.  Analyze your life, take a different approach, and seize the life you should be living.

Week 21-What is True Love?

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This week’s blog will be a little different as I still have not yet watched my webinar.  This is the first webinar that I have missed.  It was for a good cause, however.  We were giving my in-laws a surprise 50th wedding anniversary party.  We were successful, and there were over 50 people present.  At one point, there was standing room only.

The picture above is them in their early years.  Did you notice the heart shaped lilac bush?

My mother-in-law is in a wheel chair following a stroke a few years ago.  Over the years, they have helped each other through many health issues and continue to be the support that the other one needs.

Here is a short video of the two of them dancing to the accordion music.


I have realized that I also have this kind of love.  I have had the flu for the past 4 days, and today is the first day I have been able to sit up and keep down anything.  My husband, sister, and daughter have taken great care of me.  I am blessed.

Week 20 — Did I Touch Other People’s Lives? Did I Make a Difference?


If your life were to end tomorrow, what would people say about you? Would they remember your smile or kind words?

Let me ask you a few questions. This is known as Charles Schulz Philosophy.

The following is the philosophy of Charles Schulz, the creator of the “Peanuts” comic strip. You don’t have to actually answer the questions. Just read the e-mail straight through and you’ll get the point.

1. Name the five wealthiest people in the world.
2. Name the last five Heisman trophy winners.
3. Name the last five winners of the Miss America.
4. Name ten people who have won the Nobel or Pulitzer Prize.
5. Name the last half dozen Academy Award winner for best actor and actress.
6. Name the last decade’s worth of World Series winners.

How did you do?

The point is, none of us remember the headliners of yesterday. These are no second-rate achievers. They are the best in their fields. But the applause dies. Awards tarnish. Achievements are forgotten. Accolades and certificates are buried with their owners.

Here’s another quiz. See how you do on this one:
1. List a few teachers who aided your journey through school.
2. Name three friends who have helped you through a difficult time.
3. Name five people who have taught you something worthwhile.
4. Think of a few people who have made you feel appreciated and special.
5. Think of five people you enjoy spending time with.


The lesson: The people who make a difference in your life are not the ones with the most credentials, the most money, or the most awards. They are the ones that care.

“Don’t worry about the world coming to an end today. It’s already tomorrow in Australia.” (Charles Schulz)


In our MKMMA class  this week, we were asked to reflect on our life. Think about what we do and what we are neglecting to do. Why are we not progressing to our true best us?

We learned that we stay in our comfort zones. Fear, Guilt, Anger, Hurt Feelings, and Unworthiness are 5 things that keep us stuck.

Change is often uncomfortable. We treat each day the same and forget to challenge our self. As you have just found out by the Philosophy of Charles Schulz., we do not have to be the best at anything to make an impact on other’s live. We just need to be the best we can be.

I challenge you to touch someone’s life and make a difference.

Week 19 You Miss 100% Of The Shots You Do NOT Take!

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By going through life censoring what we think and do, we miss many opportunities.

Have you ever not tried to do something because you knew you would never succeed?

I have!  I now realize that if I challenge myself, I often achieve the unachievable.

Why do we limit our self?  Often, others around us have helped us create our life box.  We know where the sides are, and we have learned to stop when we get there.  We are given expectations, and we meet them and stop.  We have quit pushing the boundaries, and we live up to but not beyond our expectations.

As a substitute teacher, I spend a lot of time with our youth.  I have observed many students who have given up.  This week, one student was obviously not working on his computer class work.  When I asked him about it, he said “I never do anything.”  I replied “I would like you to do something today.”  He said, “I just don’t do it.”  I replied, “I have faith in you, and I would like you to do something while I am here.”  About 15 minutes later, he announced he had completed some work.  I gave him my praise, and he was off in a game again.   I have to remind myself small steps.  He did more than he usually did.  Why did he do some work?  Why did he not do the work always?  He could do it.  He just chooses not to.  What expectations were given to him and why were they so low?  Who set them?  Why was he not taking the shots?

Why do some people shoot for the moon and others are happy with just being?

I want you to start thinking outside the box.  Take the Shot!  Succeeding doesn’t matter.  You are a winner by trying!

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