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Week 24 – Are you valuing your gifts?

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Often in life we think that we must give something of financial value for it to truly have a value.

My daughter spent her birthday at the park with her friends.

Many kids her age expect a rented room, limo, catered meal, fancy cake, party planner, fancy decorations…

We used a picnic table at the local park. (We had to get there early to make sure we got one.)

I picked up those who needed a ride in my 2006 Jeep.

A few days earlier, we went shopping and bought all her favorites and a few healthy options.

We went to the Dollar Tree, Goodwill, and Value Village to buy everything needed for the table.

She wanted to make her famous brownies.

We stayed up till midnight making flower crowns for each person in their favorite color. (We both have the blisters from the hot glue.)

She invited her close friends.

They all seemed to have a great time.

The food was simple and went quickly.  She had rolls, meat, cheese, fruit, vegetables, chips, dip, cookies, candy, and brownies.  Grab and go foods.  I bought them 2 liter soda bottle, but they went for the water bottles instead.  This shocked me.

She had some small beach balls that they threw at each other, mini golf, bubbles, and Frisbees.

My hidden talent is making balloon animals (puppies mostly).  I wasn’t sure if they were too old, but I spent a few hours doing them.  Most of them went to the little kids that were visiting the park.  The giraffes were the big hit.

My point is this:  You have gifts inside you that do not cost money.  They are more valuable than anything that can be bought.  Share them with others.  You may be surprised at how much value you possess.



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As I have gone through the MKMMA Program, I have realized that my way of looking at my life was not helping me grow to achieve the life that I have wanted.

My life has been fear and anger driven.  I have been afraid of what will come if I take those steps that challenge me.  I try to live in my comfort zone.  Don’t rock the boat.  Why change if it isn’t broken?

I have come to realize that I am broken and did not know it.  I stop pushing myself when I feel the discomfort of the unknown.

I challenge you to look at things differently.  I must look at Fear and Anger in a positive light.

Fear is a good thing.  Fear gives us intense focus on one thing like we are looking into a magnifying glass.  With this focus, we can analyze the situation and resolve it.  Fear also gives us an energy boost.

Anger is necessary.  Anger is a surge of energy to move forward.  If you are angry, try to realize why and determine if there is a way to change the anger into energy to succeed.  Anger also lets you know that you care about what is happening.

These are just two factors that keep us from getting out of our comfort zone.

Move forward in your life.  Analyze your life, take a different approach, and seize the life you should be living.

Week 17 A – Are you a gift?

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Often we go through life not taking the time to really look in the mirror at who we truly are to ourselves and others.

Years ago, I purchased a needle point that someone had donated to Goodwill.  It caught my attention because the maker spent hours making it, and it was now being sold for $2.99. It said “What we are is God’s gift to us – What we become is our gift to God.”

As this person created this needle point, they spent hours, days, or months. I can imagine that they spent this time thinking about this saying.  Did they make it for them self or someone else?  Why was it now at Goodwill? We are a gift to ourselves and others.  When we make a difference in others’ lives, we are that gift.

You have everything that you need to make a difference.  Often we think if I only had more money than I could …  We work many hours and sometimes dismiss those whom we love the most.  The idea that we live doing things to make our loved one’s lives better by sacrificing our time is a lie that we tell ourselves.

Think back to the best time in your life as a child.  Was it something that you received or did? I have realized that I can spend money on my kids or I can spend quality time with them.  Simple things like watching a show with them or taking a walk are free.

I now am treating my life as a gift.  I am a gift to myself and others.  When I look in the mirror, I like what I see.  I am still changing and recognizing my weaknesses, but I also see my accomplishments and gifts.

Take a look in the mirror and start to love that wonderful person that is looking back at you.

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Week 16  What is Kindness?

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KINDNESS –  (noun)

  1. The state of quality of being kind
  2. A kind act; favor
  3. Kind behavior
  4. Friendly feeling

I found myself telling the students to be nice.  During a discussion that they were having, someone said something negative about another student not in the room.  It was a comment that I was guessing meant that the young lady was overly friendly.

When I was young, my mom told us not to say anything if you can’t say something nice.  I truly believe that this is a lost art.  Where has the kindness gone?

This week in MKMMA, we were asked to watch for and record acts of kindness.  It has been interesting to see just how kind people are as they go about their lives.

Here are a few examples that have been shared in my class and by my family and friends.

  1. A woman fell on the sidewalk and a lady in a van backed up to make sure she was ok.
  2. A man put all the shopping carts that were in the parking lot in the cart stall.
  3. A youth held the door open for others to go through.
  4. A mother took the neighborhood kids to school so they would not be soaked by the rain while walking to school.
  5. A friend quietly listened while their friend told them about their troubles.
  6. Someone gave a hug to someone that was down.
  7. A customer took business cards to hand out to others.
  8. One student helped another student when they were lost on their homework.
  9. The audience clapped and cheered for the performers.
  10. One student vociferously moved a large group of students out of the way so the custodian could clean the floor after lunch.

As you read my thoughts, I hope that they inspire you to look for the kindness in others and yourself.

Make an effort to perform acts of kindness.  Need some help?  Smiles, hugs, and complements are a great start.

Consider doing anonymous acts of kindness.  My kids shovel snow for the neighbors after the snow plow comes through to make sure that they can get out of their driveway in case of an emergency.

Tell me what acts of kindness you see or do in the comment section.